Your Children Will Embarass You

Easy choices. Hard life.  Hard choices. Easy life. Jerzy Gregorek Children have a knack at highlighting your weaknesses. They will do things, both in public and in private, that will make you question your choice at having them in the first place.  They will press your buttons, find your vulnerabilities and use them at your weakest […]

If You Hurt My Feelings You Must Be Punished

If the price for disrespect, discomfort or failure is public shaming, we eliminate the very environments that build resilience, community and confidence.  Good schools don’t eliminate disrespect, discomfort or failure.  Good schools create environments that make it safe enough to tackle and practice and rehearse what to do when you are feeling disrespected, or what to […]

What’s It Like to Be You?

Beliefs are not an intellectual construct, they are an emotional one. Our feelings are always connected to our body – they are embedded not just in our brain or in our cognitive memories, they are embedded in the cells of our body, in our gut, and in our joints. The question, “What’s it like to […]

Too Tired to Succeed – Who Takes Care of the Caregivers?

I am in the classroom, teaching Kindergarten and grade one students.  I am talking about feelings. Our moments of “unkind” and “mean” happen most when we are depleted. If you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired; if you are frustrated, hurt or worried, chances are good, you will be unkind to someone. I am in 12 […]

Fear Can’t Win

I am sitting across from a client. We have worked together over the last few years so I have been able to witness some significant and courageous transformations. He has been sober for over two years. Employed,  engaged in healthy habits and routines. As with all transformations, many deaths occur. He is divorced. He is […]

What Is Anxiety Cheat Sheet

What is Anxiety? anx·i·e·ty noun: anxiety; plural noun: anxieties a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. PSYCHIATRY a nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks. Stress Chemicals Increases production of cortisol and adrenaline […]

Communicating Well At Home

Communicating Well At Home Cheat Sheet Emi Garzitto I.         TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST.  Make sure you are calm and kind.  Your thoughts matter.  Go with the intention to hold relationship. II.         ASK FOR PERMISSION  “Do you have 20 minutes to talk to me? I’d like to talk about what happened at recess on the […]

What Adults Can Do For Children’s Anxiety Cheat Sheet

What Adults Can Do For Children’s Anxiety Cheat Sheet 1. Home Strategies Declutter the home environment Model Emotional Independence – Stress Contagion – You are in charge of managing your feelings Move Meditation/Breathing Provide Responsibilities and Praise Independence Limit Electronic Device Use Have a consistent morning and evening routine Eat Real Food 2. Some Suggestions: […]

YouTube, Netflix and the New Normal

All of that practice in social engagement helps us learn to regulate our own feelings.  It helps us practice those all important social emotional skills of connecting with others.  It is the tiny small nuances of human interaction, repeated thousands and thousands of times that inform all of our body.  These small bits of information […]

A Label Is Not a Solution

Schools are looking for ways to best serve a diverse group of students. One of the ways students qualify for additional support is through having students tested and designated.  This child has a learning disability.  This child is on the autism spectrum.  This child has Attention Deficit Disorder.  Each designation provides some additional supports for […]