It Doesn’t Have to Be This Hard

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. Victor Frankl It doesn’t have to be this hard. I find myself saying this often.  During my counseling sessions, in my bodywork practice, while talking to […]

The Magic of a Name – Noticing Your Feelings

Your brain knows your name. The millions of times you hear your name and respond to it have created a speedy neural pathway that has become a shortcut at receiving information. When I am working with students who are having big feelings – frustration, overwhelm,, anxiousness or angry – they are often unaware of what […]

Suffering as an Art Form – Chicks, Shells and Survival

When my mother was a little girl in Northern Italy on a small family farm, she would  watch baby chicks hatch out of their eggs. She was fascinated by the cracks and the the small puncture marks that would arrive signalling the arrival of a baby chick. There were times she would feel sorry for […]

Life Learning Vs. Good Marks

I am helping one of my nieces, Fabiana, with one of her papers.  It is a difficult and dense topic. The requirements are meticulous.  We are working sentence by sentence. Somewhere in the middle, we take a break and we Skype my sister.  Many years ago, I helped my twin edit her PhD thesis. It […]

Fear is Easy

Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember our rule of thumb: The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it. Steven Pressfield  I believed, for most of my adult life, that my […]

The Danger of “You Triggered Me”

I am an avid eavesdropper.   I love taking transit to work and hearing all of the conversations, observing different body positions, leaning in to see what people are reading, or watching on their phones. In my office, the door closed, I hear the banter of the group of intermediate students playing directly underneath from […]

The Road to Self Advocacy Is Not Paved With Kindness

Years ago when I was training for a marathon, I was participating in an 18 mile training run.  It was a hot morning and the route was full of hills.  Near the end of the run, we hit a stretch void of shade.  Everyone in the group is starting to melt a little and the […]