When Does Care Become Harm?

The mother in front of me works two jobs.  She is the sole caregiver for her two young boys.  Both of her jobs provide a substantial income.  She works very hard. Both of her boys are struggling with some of their social emotional skills, but they are excelling in their academics. Mom has both boys […]

Your Brain on Completing Tasks to the End

I was lucky to have someone mentor me through my first half marathon.  She would council me on appropriate running gear, how to pace myself, and the right kind of running shoes.  She even got me to eat during the long runs. “You have to eat something.” “This stuff tastes terrible.  Why would I want […]

Racial Profiling and High Quality Boullion Powder

I am a little nervous going through American customs. My husband’s skin colour and last name meant that when we were dating during the Bush era, he would constantly be detained for “random” checks. With the new change of politic I brace myself for another round of hold ups and special treatment.  Much to my […]

Life Learning Vs. Good Marks

I am helping one of my nieces, Fabiana, with one of her papers.  It is a difficult and dense topic. The requirements are meticulous.  We are working sentence by sentence. Somewhere in the middle, we take a break and we Skype my sister.  Many years ago, I helped my twin edit her PhD thesis. It […]

Your Brain on Uncertainty

Brains love uncertainty. What? You just finished writing a post about how brains love certainty and now you are telling me the complete opposite? Yes, I am telling you the complete opposite.  Seems our brains love a good paradox. Brains need certainty and uncertainty. Brains need safety as well as some stress and danger. Brains […]

Your Brain on Certainty

I am very fond of certainty. I have written about my addiction to certainty in one of my other blogs. Certainty is about the desire to know what is happening in your environment.   It is about the patterns, the people, the activities and routines that are predictable. Certainty is a good thing, in fact, […]

Your Brain on Routines

Slow and Steady Wins the Race One of my favourite sayings is “slow and steady wins the race,” probably because this pretty much defines everything I do.  I don’t do anything quickly.  Growing up, I struggled to keep up with my brother and sister in whatever kind of play we were currently engaged in. I […]

Point One – Feelings Matter

It is the last hour of school before school is dismissed for spring break.  I am going around to the classrooms checking in on students but I am preempted by a variety of activities.  The grade 7 classes are positively gleeful, completing art projects and eating a variety of the mandatory carbs.  I head over […]

Can We Teach Children to be Happy?

I am at a school meeting attended by a classroom teacher, a resource teacher, a school administrator, a  support worker and myself as a school counsellor. We are talking about how to better support a student who is struggling with anxiety and anxious behaviour.  Any test or performance brings significant belly aches, headaches and paralysis. […]

School Trustees Found Guilty of Bullying – Foxes Running the Chicken Coop

An external report from the Vancouver School Board was released to the media on Friday morning.  The redacted report claims that some elected School Trustees created a “a toxic work environment in which staff were bullied and harassed.” I have spoken to colleagues who were present at some of the public meetings where the “bullying” took […]